Recently I've had several friends join the single scene once again.
Being single is hard enough the first time, but then you find that special someone and you think it will be FOREVER. You never expected to find yourself back here again.
Many circumstances may place you back in that singles scene once again.
I don't think it ever gets better or easier to join the singles crowd and I'm there for the third time. I know that some of you have me beat but, you've gotta admit it's a frightening thing no matter how old or whether male or female. You find yourself wondering if you'll spend the rest of your life ALONE (what a frightening feeling). Then the thought hits you, will anyone ever find you attractive again?
I've observed as people push themselves to get back into the dating scene trying to find that next "Special Someone" that will fill their life with joy and love them for the rest of their lives. Wouldn't it be nice if we could learn from someone else's experience? There's an old saying that actually comes from the scriptures, "Advice, wise men don't need it and fools won't accept it."
So many times we measure our importance by our association with others. So and so's wife, so and so's mother, so and so's daughter, so and so's sister. A wise person once said, you need to be at peace and comfortable with who you are BEFORE you can share that person with someone else.
There's a lot of good advice in that little statement.
When we find ourselves at the end of one relationship we need to step back and take time to figure out who we are before we can move on to share that person with some else. I usually suggest giving yourself about hmmm - 6 months to a year. That sounds like along time but it really isn't. No matter what caused the relationship to end there is a recuperation time.
I've spent most of my life trying to figure out who I am and becoming comfortable with myself as I am. I'm here to tell you that I don't know if ANYONE will find me attractive, but I'm leaving that one up to my Heavenly Father. He knows what he needs of me and what will delight me beyond words.
I really do like who I am, there may be a few things that'd I'd like to change and some that others would like to change...but for the most part I like me.
There was a long time that I couldn't say that. The hurts were too deep and I didn't like the situation that I found myself in nor did I like me.
But...I'm dropping in to tell you that it's OK to be content with who you are and in the situation in which you find yourself. The Apostle Paul said it best, "I've learned to be content in all situations..." That comes with learning to trust God.
SOoo...Be Patient With Yourself!
Your Heavenly Father loves you-you know! And that is worth more than anything in the world. You're SPECIAL and don't you forget it!